Want to level up your love life? It starts with getting honest about the habits holding you back. Here are five common toxic behaviors we see all the time — and how to start shifting them:
1. Playing Games to Seem Unbothered Pretending you don’t care might protect your ego short-term, but it blocks real intimacy. Being honest about your interest shows strength, not weakness. Try this instead: Be direct about your feelings. “I like you and I’d like to see where this goes” is bold and rare in the best way.
2. Ignoring Red Flags Because of Physical Attraction Lust can blind you — fast. If someone repeatedly shows you they’re unavailable, selfish, or dishonest, it’s time to trust your gut. Try this instead: Pause and ask: “Would I want my best friend to date this person?” If the answer’s no, check your standards.
3. Overanalyzing Texts or Playing ‘Reply Games’ The “wait 3 hours to text back” rule is tired. Obsessing over response time creates unnecessary anxiety. Try this instead: Match their pace naturally. If they’re into you, you’ll know — and you won’t have to decode it.
4. Seeking Validation Through Constant Attention Getting compliments feels good — but needing constant praise from new flings might point to something deeper. Try this instead: Work on internal validation. Notice what makes you feel confident and fulfilled outside of dating.
5. Using Scent as a Disguise Instead of Amplifier If you’re only spritzing to cover something up, you’re missing the point. Scent should enhance who you are, not mask it. Try this instead: Choose a scent that complements your energy. Earth’s Desire from our Bloom collection is fresh, earthy, and magnetic — perfect for someone learning to attract with authenticity.
Remember: change doesn’t happen overnight. But even one small habit shift can create a ripple effect in how you love, show up, and connect.
Add new people to your life with better energy, starting with the energy you bring to yourself.
